Women dating an androgynous man
Some homosexuals may also be androgynous, but most are not. In the first place, such a man is quite secure in his own masculinity: secure enough to ignore the exaggerated demands of macho culture and to create his own style.
The man who is androgynous is not someone who is effeminate or womanlike.
—Susan Sontag Coleridge maintained that “the great mind must be androgynous.” To that, we must add that great lovers must be androgynous as well.
The man who is most desirable as a lover must have some of the traits which are usually thought of as belonging to women; the woman who is most desirable as a mistress must have some of the traits which are usually thought of as belonging to men. From its roots, you can tell it refers to a combination of the sexes: “andro” meaning male (as in “androgen,” the male sex hormone) and “gyn” meaning female (as in “gynecology,” the branch of medicine devoted to women).
He can be assertive without being aggressive; he can be dominant, in some circumstances, without being a bully; and he can follow, in other circumstances, without being a wimp.
The androgynous man is as handy with a mix master as he is with a chain saw, as concerned with table settings as with the Dow Jones; he is as interested in poetry as he is in the World Series.
While there is no right or wrong way to crossdress, this article can be used as a guide through the complicated process of switching your gender through the garments you chose to wear.