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So by sticking to my guns, in the end, I got what I wanted most of all. You must be willing to face that reality if you are indeed going to decide to stick to your guns, too.
But I had to be willing to let that all go to raise my standards. In the end, I did what I will tell you to do: Follow your heart.
Only you know what is right for you – and your heart is where you will find that answer.
I can say from personal experience that following your heart is not always easy, nor does it feel very good at times.
Are they actively working a program of recovery (e.g., participating in self-help support meetings, counseling or an aftercare program)?
Someone with less than a year sober should stay focused on their recovery program, not dating.
Many of you have shared your personal stories of the pain of living with an alcoholic in your life in the comments below.
I encourage you to share what you want, and read through what people have said as well.
In working with the spouses and significant others of addicts, I’ve often heard it said, “I’d rather be an addict than love one.” While few people would ever walk eyes-wide-open into a chronic disease like addiction, the statement speaks to the confusion, loneliness and despair common not only among addicts but also the men and women who love them. In fact, addicts who are solid in their recovery can make excellent partners.
So once you make your decision, you must also be willing to stick to it.
And if you aren’t, then you aren’t in a position to make your ‘half decision’ a bargaining chip.
I also hope that it serves as an inspiration to you that you are not alone, and that you really can live the life you want.
For those that are curious – my husband is indeed still sober and is an amazing example of strength and triumph over addiction.
Beyond the first year, the longer someone has maintained their sobriety the more secure you can feel that you’re choosing a partner who is healthy and whole.