Dating a seperated man with adult children dating women with red hair
My question is: Is this a "red flag" for a guy who might be interested in dating me?and, at what point do I disclose that my oldest son lives with me?He works, takes care of his own needs, pays rent and helps me around the house. It is not a permanent arrangement, and when he can afford it, he has no problem with eventually moving out.He is young and I'm sure its a bit embarrassing to be living at home again at his age.I wasn't about to date someone who had to sneak around her kids to date me.My kids do understand my need to have a male companion now and then.There is also this neat little building called a hotel.have beds and privacy.Edit: I find it interesting that this post slid in to the sex discussion about me and my teenagers being an issue.I honestly thought the main issue would be that a man might think I am not allowing my adult son to grow up and he might feel more intimidated by the fact of an adult male being in my house.
I think it's bad parental judgment to act as though there's something wrong with dating in the way people normally date. It wasn't a ``red flag'' for me until I realized that it meant a lot more limitations than I thought were warranted. The self-imposed limitations using the kids an excuse are.Realize, that I also have 2 other teenagers in the home, and I would never consider bringing a man in to my home for an overnight stay unless I was in a committed, long term, relationship.My children have only met one man I had been dating for several months, and even that was a brief introduction.I'm really glad for that time we got to spend together.At this point I have never had that bad of a negative reaction to it, but I do approach the subject with skepticism because of my own fears of what their reaction might be. I see that this is just something that I really should not feel umcomfy with and make it known when the time is right... My kids do understand my need to have a male companion now and then.
If a man finds it to be a red flag that I have teenagers, then I am happy he spotted it and moved on way before contacting me. Having your 25 year old son at home won't be nearly as much of a date killer as this is.