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Sounds to me, Pat, like you’re a decent man who might not even be fully aware of what your needs are. I’ve had terrible experiences dating a separated man who wasn’t ready to date — but it wasn’t his fault (entirely).
I was the one who ignored all the obvious signs he wasn’t ready.
We went to counseling for many months prior to the separation and it didn’t work.
I agreed to 3 years legal separation, so that she could get my health insurance, and then the divorce would be decreed.
However, I have to point out to women reading this and nodding that in ANY relationship, you CAN’T know after date 1, month 1 or month 3 that you’re destined to spend forever together. However, if you discover through the process of dating, that in fact, you’re just looking to have fun for a little while, make sure you don’t allow any woman to invest too deeply in you.
That’s the risky part of making yourself vulnerable, even though you know, full well, that 99% of relationships that get started don’t end up at the altar. Or go out of your way to find a woman who is recently separated or divorced, just like you. Just be totally upfront about where you are emotionally, and let her decide.
Assess his situation thoroughly: How long has he been separated? Are there kids involved and/or assets that need to be split?
Shutterstock A couple of days ago a friend and I were discussing another mutual friend–we’ll call her “Roslyn”–who was going through a divorce.Now when I date a divorced/separated guy, I listen carefully to find out where he is emotionally.I don’t even have to ask — it comes out naturally in conversation.And that’s the part, Pat, that I have to acknowledge on behalf of women.To answer your question directly: no, it would not be that bad if you dated a woman and it didn’t work out.
Contrary to what some might say, that’s called “dating”. The issue is that most women don’t want to get emotionally involved with someone who could be considered high-risk.